Tuesday 29 April 2008

Sunday Roast on a Saturday

I always have to be different. 2 Weeks ago Frieda and Johan came over and we all had Sunday Lunch - on a Saturday - at Willie's house. I cooked pork roast with all the trimmings, even Yorkshire puddings! Frieda made the most delicious caramel sauce, served with ice-cream. Afterwards we took a walk around the school where Willie works/lives. Check it out at www.bearwoodcollege.co.uk.

and of course....Murphy was there......


Baby Shower

On Sunday 13 April we held a surprise baby shower at Leon and Elizma's house for the expecting Mommy. After spring cleaning the house before Elizma's closest friends arrived (it was a bit of a building site as they were in the middle with their loft conversion), we were ready in the nick of time.

Great afternoon with lots of cake, and giggles and even a few tears...... Elizma enjoyed herself, which was the point of the whole thing, and her friends and family spoilt her with beautiful gifts and very touching words, not to mention welcomed advise form the mom's around..... Thanks for everyone who came, and everyone who helped!


I know I can't wait for my new niece/nephew.......... due date 26 May 2008 (and counting......)

Wednesday 9 April 2008

The Power of Positive Thinking (and Action...)

The headmaster of St Stithians, Dave Knowles delivered the following speech to the boys recently
(abridged
)

I wanted to spend some time with you today reflecting on the last two or three months we have experienced as a nation. Some commentators have called this the "post-Polokwane Syndrome", after the events at the ANC National Conference in December, the outcome of which many have seen as negative.

Added to this negative feeling, has been the electricity crisis, now seen as a result of poor planning by the state and acknowledged as such by President Mbeki in his State of the Nation address in Parliament, where he apologised to the nation.

Also knocking us have been higher world oil prices; higher interest rates in SA and the start of a world wide recession, particularly in the UK and the US with their major housing crisis. Added to these have been the on-going crime situation and negative press articles.

So, it is quite easy to fall into the trap of feeling and thinking negatively about our country.

In 1948, Alan Paton wrote his famous book "Cry the Beloved Country" and that title is perhaps still appropriate today, 60 years on, for obviously different reasons. How do we as passionate South Africans, react to this mood of despondency?

Well I cannot speak for you or tell you what to think but I can give you my perspective.First of all, I make no apologies for being passionately South African.

Let me share this with you - I was not born in South Africa, I was born in East Africa (I moved here at the age of seven), so becoming a naturalised South African was a choice for me. It was a choice I made in the mid 1980s - a terrible time for South Africa - the country was in turmoil; we had sanctions; very low economic growth; the country was bankrupt; civil war was looming; there were bombs in schools; riots in the townships; young men, many of them my peers, fighting and dying on our borders. During that time, I gave up a British passport for a South African one.

Some might call that foolish. So be it. I have never regretted that decision.

Why not? Not just because South Africa is such a beautiful country - it was because I believed in the people of this country and I believed that God had a plan for us. This was proved right for me when the miracle of 1994 happened. And it was a miracle.

All of you sitting here, matrics and younger, were born either in the year Madiba was released, in 1990, or afterwards. And most of our Grade 8s are "born-frees" - born in 1994 or afterwards and what a privilege that is!As a passionate South African, here's what gets me mad:
The levels of violence and crime that have touched many of us - and many of you sitting here.
As an adult, on behalf of all adults, I believe that we need to apologise to our youth for not doing more to protect you.
I get mad when I visit black schools and see how little they have and how poor some of the teaching is. I get mad that there is still massive poverty in our country and an Aids pandemic. I get mad that there are some instances of incompetence when it comes to areas of social and service delivery.

But being mad about these issues doesn't make me any less passionate about South Africa. I especially get mad that some of our leaders lack moral standing - whether they be a judge, the top policeman or the top politicians.To me the issue is not whether they are guilty in a court of law. For me, leaders should not be tainted by even a hint of corruption. Even that hint undermines a leader's moral standing - and one should do the honourable thing and resign, in my opinion.

You see, to be a leader means to be a dealer, a purveyor and a deliverer of hope.And it is our job - yours and mine - to be deliverers of hope. Because we believe in this school that all can and will lead and because I believe in the talent and potential of the young men sitting before me - I believe in that hope.

So am I optimistic? Yes.

I cannot believe that, after all we have been through as a nation, that a future Zimbabwe scenario is God's plan for us. Yes, I am optimistic because I believe that we have the people here in South Africa to overcome these challenges.Stuart Pennington, author of the book and website "South Africa: The Good News" wrote last week: "I am in awe of the thousands of South Africans who toil to help the less fortunate." I would include in that statement honest policemen, hardworking nurses and teachers and all who work in community service projects, including all of you.Yes, I am optimistic because I refuse to believe that we can continue to be held to ransom by a criminal minority. Yes, I am optimistic because we are resilient and tough, as a people and a nation.Yes, I am optimistic because I believe that the challenges ahead are surmountable, as we wage war against poverty and crime and corruption.Let's look at some of the facts not always highlighted by the media.As we know, the media often focuses on the bad news because bad news sells.So, when it comes to the economy, let's remember that economies work in cycles - expansion; higher expenditure, the economy overheats and there is a readjustment (recession) which is normal.It has happened before in South Africa - and has been worse - and will happen again.

But think about this:

Electricity was cheap, now we are paying more
We had electricity cuts before. In 1981, there was no power in the whole country for 18 hours
We are not the only country to have power cuts - New York; China - over Chinese New Year this year - 12 million people were left stranded.
There are other challenges. The world oil price has gone from $60 per barrel in 2007 to $90 now and it is not coming down. We may be heading for a situation like the UK where they pay R15 per litre.
HIV/Aids is another major concern, as we see fit to spend R17bn on the World Cup but less on handling this pandemic.


So what am I saying?Yes there are concerns and challenges BUT there are also many positives.There are no easy answers or solutions and 2008 will be tough.However, we have had it tough before and we handled it and boom years will come again - such as in 2010.So what do we do? Toughen up, get creative and get active, as the "new" South Africans. By "getting creative," I mean this - there are massive opportunities here and we will be more aware of issues, especially financially and environmentally.

Two thoughts by way of example:
Next time there is a power cut and you can't read e-mails, play computer games or watch TV - celebrate - you can instead talk to people - your family or colleagues.
With regard to the environment, here is an example of being creative: water availability is always an issue in SA - did you know that the average house has 120 000 litres of water running off its roof every year in the form of rain water?

Here is an excerpt from "African Wisdom" by Lanette Hattingh and Heinrich Claassen entitled The Ostrich Wisdom: Where is your head?
"When confronted with a setback you have two choices of action: you can bury your head in the sand like the ostrich and hope the problem will pass by, or you can stand tall and face the problem head on."


"We have one freedom inside us that nobody can take away, the freedom of reaction/attitude in any given circumstance." (Viktor Frankl, the psychologist & concentration camp survivor.)
Our reaction to a setback will determine if we are going to stay with our heads buried in the sand or look up and do something about it.When storms of life pour down on you, it's what happens within you that will determine what happens to you.You have Mr Positive and Mr Negative doing constant battle in your head. Guess who wins? The one you feed the most! If your head is in the sand you can only see the dark and Mr Negative will thrive. To see the light, you must look up.

"When you are knocked down, be sure to land on your back, because if you can look up, you can get up." (Nelson Mandela)

This is important because just as the sun hardens mud and softens wax, trials can either break us or make us.Finally, here is my resolve and my truth:-
To be positive
To stop whingeing
To stop blaming
To ignore the doomsday jokes sent out by people who want you to feel as bad as they do.
To read the Good News website regularly
To join the "stop crime, say hello" campaign
To find goodness in people
To commit, regularly, to this beautiful country of ours
To believe in God's plan for us


I know this - that if I do not work to create the life I want, I will have to endure the life I get.One final thought:Matthew Lester writes a column in the Sunday Times Business Times Money. He is Professor of Tax Education at Rhodes University and an advisor to Trevor Manuel.
Yesterday he had this to say:
"South Africa is my life, it always has been and it always will be."


Amen to that.

A Prayer for the Country (taken off the www.sagoodnews.co.za website)

Our Father in Heaven

You know exactly how much we need You right now

Please let the Leaders of our country act under your influence

We ask that You will hold your hand over us and our country

And bring relief from the crime and other difficulties we are experiencing.

We are proud and privileged to live in this beautiful country

Look after us and bring us peace and prosperity.

"By Dave Knowles, Headmaster of St Stithians in Johannesburg

Monday 7 April 2008

Family get together

Over Easter weekend, we hooked up with my Uncle Frank and family from the USA. They were over in the UK for Spring Break, and we spent the weekend with them in London. Cheane, Kirstyn, Willie and I went out to Tiger Tiger near Picadilly Circus on Friday 21 March. On Staurday we spent the day in London, ending it with dinner and a few beers at the Springbok Bar near Covent Garden. Shaun joined us too, so a small family reunion. SHUT-UP, London 08 was great!!

Click here for some more photos



Visit to Arundel

Willie and I went to Arundel in West Sussex over the weekend. After walking around this beautiful town, we drove down to Littlehampton by the sea, and stopped at the Arundel Vineyards (which was closed unfortunately). We then drove back home via Shere, where we stopped for a glass of red wine and a beer. A lovely day out, and home just in time before 2 inches of snow fell. Click here for some photos

Love you longtime......

I spoilt myself the other night and made some creative sushi with a Sushi maker mum got me for Christmas. Check it out..........Wish you could taste it, Moya - you would have been proud!